Assuming that everyone of you readers might have had friends in opposite sex (can be gfs/bfs, crush, not including bro/sis combo), i wanna talk about the BIG DILEMMA which keeps appearing in our normal stupid life when we have to choose between LOVE and FRIENDS (Love might be a strong word but i will use it for the attractive opposite sex n FRIENDS for the ppl who matter in our life but none is gonna be romantically involved with us).

                Has not it happened with everyone of us, okay i will assume myself  (in case some bragging lucky bastard out there), i plan to go out with my friends over the weekend and all of a sudden on friday night, i get the dreaded call from the SO CALLED Love of my life "hey baby, i wanna go for a movie this saturday, and its been soo long we have not been to a candle light dinner, i m soo longing to spend my time with yu chweet heart, n yu know what baby, sunday i will take yu to shopping, yu know XXX's birthday coming up n i got nothing to wear", n when this call is going on, whats going through my mind "Lag gai band mere plans ki, na rahi daaru, na raha football match, ab chalo madam ke ishaare". 

                Now, i will get a counter argument, that i am being partial, sharing time with your LOVE is as much necessary as spending time with friends, soo neutrally, another situation. Its been a month since i am busy with college and submissions, have actually not been out with my girl since summer, high time i make up to my sweetheart, she deserves some of my time at least for all our love, so i've made plans of going to the nearby hill station on saturday morning and return by sunday, seems it will be fun (obviously, ladki ke saath hill station pe privacy milegi toh FUN nahi kiya toh kya POGO dekhunga :P), n in the meanwhile, my ex room-mate calls "Hey bro ssup, m coming to pune this weekend and called up all our friends already, we are gonna have a hell of a reunion n booze till we drop, so get ready to get sloshed". WTF, what shall be done now ???

                Both these situations were just some examples, but what shall be done ?. Now it will be very easy for some of yu (the ones who have always been single ofcourse :P) to say, choose the one whom yu promised first, like THE FRIENDS in the first case and THE LOVE in the second, but dumbos this is no maths ka problem, try first method, answer aa gaya toh thik nahi toh kahaani repeat, ek mistake aur kahaani khatam ho jaati hain.

                There will be some SADDA YAAR types to say "Aray dude, Friend will be there always, Ladki aaj hai aur kal nahi, aakhir kaam toh dost hi aayenge". i've also encountered some Very Blackmailing Friends like "oye, in the middle of the night yu meet with an accident, who's gonna come to support, or in the middle of your breakup who's gonna finsh up those beer cans with yu and hear your devdas talks, friends are gonna be there, so always priorotize them".

                Now, in the last lets give a thought about the LOVE OF MY LIFE, ignore them and hell's gonna break loose, like she is your love how the hell is she not prioritized, who's gonna be there when i need a cuddle (we will skip the horny part ofcourse). What if she is THE ONE (ONE is the ultimate girl/boy whom i assume i will live HAPPILY EVER AFTER), in no case i m letting THE ONE typo girl get out of my life, and if she is gonna satisfy me WITH HER LOVE etc etc etc :P, and she means something i need to care about her.

                So again how do we choose..? Do we think, "Let me see the after effects, the one less painful and easily managable can be avoided". But, the one choice which can be avoided means that choice is more understanding, so by ignoring the more understanding choice among the two, i am actually being partial and doing it wrong, coz they dont deserve to be ill treated. So the other option is to ignore the more Non Understanding KIT KIT karne wala, but once ignored there should not be any regrets in Life.

                Now some smart ass will come with an idea "Take the Girl Along with your Friends", but what if you want privacy with your girl, or if she does not get along with your friend or vice versa or (FRIENDS are bevdas n want to get sloshed and the girl wants to get laid in your arms), soo in the most difficult situation, one cant just go with the INTUITIONS or PRIORITIES or SITUATION. 

               What would I do.. ?? I simply will make a choice and let the other person/s know about it. Instead of running away from the situation and being DIPLOMATIC i think its better i let everyone know about what i want to do at that present moment. If the other party does not understand may be they are not worthy of my presence in their life. 

               P.S. the sex can be changed in terms of he and she, i have written and imagined all with HER as THE ONE and the GUYS as my FRIENDS. 

               CHEERS